Are you yearning for a deeper understanding & a way out of your relationship struggles?
You find yourselves stuck in cycles of conflict, disconnection, and/or emotional reactivity—whether through defensiveness, criticism, withdrawal, or feeling unheard and unappreciated
You see how your attachment wounds, fears, and/or experiences from childhood are impacting the relationship but you just don’t have the tools or support to move past it
You both keep getting more polarized and entrenched in your stories of pain and frustration
You keep having the same arguments or falling into the same repetitive dynamic that leave you both feeling stuck, misunderstood, or exhausted
You’re feeling lonely, disconnected, and/or isolated from each other
You’re questioning whether this relationship is right for you both because of how challenging and triggering it has become
You’re ready to move from the “power struggle” phase of your relationship to the “conscious love” phase of your relationship
At Lindsey Bourne Coaching, I help couples identify how they are triggering each other’s deepest wounds, and how that isn’t a sign of incompatibility, but actually a path towards healing and deeper intimacy.
Using a blend of somatic work, attachment theory, and Internal Family Systems (IFS), we’ll uncover the roots of both of your relational patterns, heal the attachment wounds that drive them, and equip you with tangible tools and skills in order to transform your relationship and restore the harmony and connection that you know is possible.
Let’s work together to break free from these cycles, build deeper intimacy, and create a relationship that feels more secure, fulfilling, and aligned.
You’re in the right place if…
Improved communication: Learn how to express needs and feelings clearly while listening with empathy and understanding.
Increased self-awareness: Understand both of your personal triggers and patterns, and how they influence the relationship. Distinguish what yours, what’s mine, what’s ours.
Healing attachment wounds: Identify and address the underlying relational patterns, wounds, and beliefs (rooted in past experiences) that impact the relationship dynamic.
Understanding the relationship dynamic: The dynamic at the root of your conflict and/or disconnection mirrors both of your relational wounds and patterns. Identify the dynamic in order to shift it.
Conflict resolution skills: Learn how to resolve conflict and how to use conflict as an opportunity to deepen your connection and understanding of one another.
Deeper emotional intimacy: Restore trust and safety, which are the prerequisites to intimacy.
Aligned relationship goals: Establish a shared vision for the relationship and work toward it collaboratively.
Healthy boundaries: Learn to set and honor boundaries that foster mutual respect and safety.